IN JAMAICA: I'm 40 and can't find a husband in the church LOVE & SEX....The holder of an MBA, owner of her own home and small business, Cindy now realises that there is a shortage of suitable men in the church

By KIMBERLEY HIBBERT  Monday, September 22, 2014

FOR years she has been waiting patiently on the Lord to supply her need for a husband, but Cindy A, 40, is becoming impatient. The 20-year Christian says she has done everything to please God -- she has remained a virgin, valued her purity, and waited for what she describes as the 'perfect man' to come into her life. The holder of an MBA, owner of her own home and small business, Cindy now realises that there is a shortage of suitable men in the church, and that her qualifications may intimidate men. And she can't seek her husband outside, since the church has strict guidelines about who she should date and eventually marry.

Cindy is now contemplating ending her Christian status to find a man on the outside, so she can enjoy the life and family she thinks she deserves.

She's not alone. Much has been said about the dearth of eligible men in the church, a problem that spans all denominations. The men are either elderly or too young, and never the 20 or 30-somethings needed to match the legion of young Christian women hoping to find a mate.

Reverend Alvin Bailey, president of the Jamaica Evangelical Alliance, says if Cindy knows what she wants but cannot find it in the church, maybe her man doesn't exist.

"Men are not in short supply, and if you can't find a man and a man can't find you, there's really nothing to do. I would encourage her to continue waiting on the Lord and to also understand that not everyone will get married, whether there's enough men or not," he said. more